Tomorrow is my sister's birthday, unfortunately.

 Tomorrow is my sisters birthday and she will be 33 years old.

I just wish she can acknowledge my family's existence. Ever since she started seeing this man, who was already married just for extra measure, she's been more and more distant from us. My parents didn't see eye to eye with him. His own parents were okay but still, we don't really do much with them, given the circumstances. We tried so hard to keep our family ties with us but in the end she cut them. She's refused to have anything to do with her son and all she cares about is her daughters, two of which are from her boyfriends previous marriage. She also got some kittens. Just how much she doesn't acknowledge our existence? Her childhood dog who we spent a long time with had succumbed to natural causes and she didn't inform us personally. She posted it on Facebook and only I knew of it, because I didn't unfriend her on Facebook.

Since then, I learned how she has also refused to even provide support for her son, leaving us to help him on his feet. I wonder if she ever thinks of us, or how much legal ramifications she's caused? My mother says that she sends greeting cards to her but she never even gets a "thank you" from her. No idea why.

I was never involved in the arguments between my mother and my sister but I can remember hearing them and they happened long before she met her current boyfriend. In the end, I have to look after my nephew, who considers me a better parent than his father and my sister. I have mixed feelings about it. He comes to our home every weekend. His relationship with his father is also on snapping point and from what I understand, she comes up in the heated exchanges.

Consequently my parents have decided to leave all their inheritance to me in their last will and testament. My parents worked hard to provide for her, they did the effort in securing her a home and this is how she repays us. Even our other family members see what she did as absolutely hurtful and selfish and stupid.

I bring this up because there have been arguments between me and my parents and the one thing I don't want to be is her. I don't want to be like my sister. It hurts just to think about how much her decision to completely cut us out of her existence has done to us all, in particular my Dad, because when Mum and I have arguments the subject of her does come up. The arguments are all currently boiling down to my mental conflict on my university course and my interests in setting up an online business or at least do something that will help me for my financial wellbeing. I don't want to be a downer but when her birthday is around the corner, I don't know if I can explain my feelings about it.

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